How To Be A Better Conversationalist – A Two-Part Framework

HERE’S WHAT YOU LEARNED:

1️⃣ You must capture their attention so they can emotionally invest in you. Say something interesting, determined by what you imagine [from experience] what they might find compelling, OR what YOU find interesting, genuinely. The genuine part is about your transferring enthusiasm.

2️⃣ The goal of the pattern-interrupt is go get them out of the automatic headspace/response.

3️⃣ Being funny and witty is about demonstrating you have high social/emotional intelligence. This tells them you’re a evolutionary-high-value person and that is attractive in and of itself.

💗 Follow the 70/30 Rule for being a compelling conversationalist which consists of facilitating 70% of the attention of the conversation based on what they like to talk about and 30% what you like to talk about.

💗 Remember that *what they like to talk about* is DIFFERENT from *what you think about what they like to talk about*!

💗 The magic of the 70/30 Rule is you don’t need to be compelling to be able to facilitate it. You simply have to be interested in them, genuinely, and be able to pay particular attention to them and encourage them to communicate about things they enjoy talking about.